Divorced Dads Tips – How to Prepare for Family Court

By Danny Guspie -

DISCLAIMER: The following is NOT legal advice, nor is it a substitute for legal advice. If you are in Family Court you will need legal advice, so please see a lawyer.

There are two ways for a divorced dad to look at the time spent preparing in Family Court:

(1) You can either approach the experience with the attitude you’re just spinning your wheels and wasting time and money

or

(2) You can do your homework and learn your way around the Family Court system in order to prepare for your own court successful appearances.

Do you need to guess which strategy the successful divorced dad chooses? No way.

I’ll let you in on a secret you may not know about Family Court: People are predictable. Judges will reach for the same solutions again and again. If you spend time observing what happens in Family Court you will see that there is a lot of predictability to the processes once you learn who’s involved.

Learning who your Family Court Judges are and how they run their courtroom and how they decide things is imperative if you want to win in Family Court.

A divorced dad would do well to spend some time watching the action in court and learning their court inside out, including the judges. Like a boy scout, he should be prepared for anything the judge might throw at him.

In the early 1990′s there used to be a man who was a frequent guest on the Larry King Show named Gerry Spence. He wrote a book called How to Argue and Win Every Time. The principles in that book were inspiring to me when I was in the thick of Family Court struggles. He listed several laws that are at the core of every winning argument, and I will share a five of them here.

(1) Before you even begin, you must believe that you are capable of making a winning argument. When you truly believe that, present your case and always argue from the heart. If you argue from the heart, you are telling the truth. The truth in this context is hard to beat because it is so infectiously compelling and persuasive.

(2) Remember that winning is getting what you want, but it also means helping others get what they want.This means divorced dads need to look for a way to compromise.

(3) Learn that words are a weapon and can be used in hostile combat. In Family Court, inflammatory words are not a wise choice. The judges hear this type of thing day in and day out and it does not leave them with a favorable impression.

(4) Know that there is a biological advantage of delivering the truth. Certain chemical reactions occur in the body when a person tells the truth, and others can pick up on it.

(5) Assault is not argument. Attacking your opponent does not mean that you are arguing. It usually signals fear of losing an argument

I’ll share the next four principles of How to Argue and Win in Family Court Every Time in my next article.

During my divorce, I wished for a divorce roadmap. That’s why we created a weekly telewebcast, to help men like yourself.

If you’ve lost in Family Court, don’t give up. There is always hope. You’ve likely lost because you didn’t understand that winning requires effectively “waging peace” for your children.

If you base your game plan and strategies upon those of successful fathers, you will improve your chances of success immeasurably. You need help from dads who have done what you are trying to do.

Danny Guspie Executive Director of Fathers Resources International can help you learn the successful strategies of fathers who have won in Family Court. Join us on our weekly calls at http://www.DivorcedDadWeekly.com where we will share with you what has worked for many successful divorced dads.

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